Nov 072011

If you’ve overcome your fear, and gone ahead in spite of it, you’ve accomplished the first step. Now, you’ve got to kick it while it’s down, by learning the signs of fear, how to argue with your fear, get your fear to work with you, and then to use your fear as fuel.

Learn the signs of fear.

Everyone reacts to fear a little bit differently. Some react differently to different types of fear. The same person who runs screaming at the sight of a spider might react by doing nothing when they are dealing with a fear of change. Sometimes the difference is that one fear might have a physical manifestation, while others do not. Other times, the difference is in the timeframe. The immediacy of the one fear might seem more important than a fear of death, for example. Knowing how you react to your fears, and understanding that your reaction might be different when faced with different fears, is one of the key factors in overcoming your fear, and, then turning the tables on your fear. Observe what happens when you are faced with a fear. Do you run screaming? Do you freeze in place? Do you avoid decisions?

Argue with your fear.

Just because your fear might not have a physical manifestation doesn’t mean that you can’t argue with it. Understand that fear is a manifestation of your mind. And your mind can be argued with. Fear isn’t rational. Find the rational, and logical argument against your fear. Use that argument as often as you need to debate with your fear. You might not win the first time, or the second time, but keep with it, and you’ll eventually win. And winning the argument is what will propel you into a working relationship with your fear.

Work with your fear.

Fear rarely goes away. Even the bravest people you know have fear. They’ve just learned how they react to their fear, argued with their fear, and are working with their fear. Many of the most successful people work with their fear to accomplish great things. When asked what it is that makes them so successful, they may utter a few platitudes, but, if they are honest, they will say that their fear of failure drives them to keep working, testing themselves, and overcoming until they achieve success. They work with their fear, and their fear fuel to feed their successes.

Feed off of your fear.

Successfully kicking fear while it’s down is all about making your fear work for you; using your fear as fuel to feed your success. A fear of failure, properly used as fuel, will feed you to double your efforts towards success. A fear of change, properly used as fuel, will feed you to work towards taking control of the situation so that you not only have some idea of what the change is that’s coming, but in what ways it will manifest itself.

Use your fear, manipulate your fear, and take control of your fear. Use it to fuel the successes you want in your life.